What exactly is a Social Dynamics Coach?

Hey guys it’s Adam here and I am the man behind The Bowl. I began my journey of Self-Cultivation roughly 7 years ago at the time of writing this (2018) and like most guys I started at a very low place. At age 17, I was crippled by social anxiety, I had no freedom of choice in my dating life and the very idea of speaking to a random person freaked me out. I am the founder and lead instructor here at The Bowl and if I had to sum up what I teach in 3 words it would be
‘Direct, Congruent and Authentic’. 
I don’t believe in wasting mine or woman’s time, so I live by these words.

Why is it called ‘The Bowl’? Well it originally was just a secret FB group between one of my closest friends (Roy) and I back in high school. We would share everything to do with our journey into cold approach/life, and because I spent most of my time meeting people in the day, and Roy mostly met people during the night, we called it “The Bowl”, because it was the place where everything could mix. Since then I’ve just decided to run with it and let it blossom and evolve into the home of Self-Cultivation.

My Story

I was first introduced to ”cold approach pick up” by Roy who met a local PUA at the gym. At first I heavily resisted the idea of pick up and thought those guys were just shallow players (this is what I call “White Knight Adam" Stage”), but as fate would have it, I eventually fell in love with the idea of bettering myself, creating a new lifestyle and enjoying all the crazy adventures this journey has to offer.

From ages 17-19, after a couple frustrating years of intermittently attempting to learn social skills with women, I had my “fuck it” moment! I was sitting in a bean bag, playing some Call of Duty Black Ops 2 with some pizza hut. It was a Saturday night and this was all I had planned… at this very moment I said to myself “…surely there is more to life than this!?”. Even if it’s not going out to clubs and bars because I didn’t enjoy those types of places at the time, surely I could be sharing this moment with a beautiful woman. On the same night, my wing (Matt) who was further down the journey than I was, called me suggesting the idea of a 30 day challenge. I had never heard of this concept before, and based on my current situation of having been in “the journey” for 2 years at this point, with a grand total of 0 Dates (Day2s) and 0 Sexual interactions (Lays), I thought “why the fuck not, I can’t really get any lower at this point.”.
So for the next 30 days I went out every day and saw exponential, compounded growth that blew my mind.
To cut the 30 Day Challenge story short, at the end I was seeing 3 different girls in casual relationships, had finally been sexually intimate with a girl from cold approach and a month after the challenge was over I met “my 10” and spent the next 2 years with her.
Once I had transformed myself, it wasn't the women that had validated me, it was the self-cultivation, the work, the person I had become that had brought me my self-worth.

During that 2 year relationship I began coaching guys in Adelaide for free with one of my wings Jordan. Eventually we realised we had something here and started putting together professional boot camps in both the day and the night. In march of 2015 we decided to really go hard at it, kicking off The Bowl website and Youtube Channel. We then spent the next year travelling around the country teaching Boot Camps. In early 2016 Jordan decided to move on from The Bowl in order to find and develop himself, there was no bad blood left between us, and I wish him the absolute best in life.

So now I am running the ship solo and really getting my message out there that everyone deserves the freedom of choice in their dating life, and to a larger extent, to walk the journey of building one’s temple. My ‘why’ and what motivates me is to guide people on their journey's of Self-Cultivation, to give back what I've learnt along my journey, so that the path may be simpler for someone else.
If you think you're ready to dive into the next level of deeper coaching, then check out the Boot Camp page HERE.

The journey will always be your journey,
Much Peace and Much Joy!
Adam.

If you want to get an EVEN DEEPER understanding of where I came from, check this potto:

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When 2 people can come together and say "I don't need you, and you don't need me", the true blossoming of an abundant relationship can happen. The principle: the more you need me, the less I want you. Tag someone who needs to hear this, and drop me your thoughts in a comment below ❤ #TheBowl
"If you woke up today, you won.” The Meditation, 5/7/19. I think we sometimes forget how inconceivable it is to be alive. The mysteries of the universe may never be known to us, but one thing we do know is that we have right now. In my nightly meditations when I focus on the lesson of the day, this rang true. "I woke up today, that’s insane. I already won. Everything else I did was bonus”. It's no doubt that my appreciation for the fact that I’m even alive is what drives me to make the most of everyday. And what’s even more interesting is that people who have no drive for life often take it for granted… Gratitude = An engine that fuels itself. Tag someone who also gets up on life! Drop me your thoughts in a comment below ❤️ #TheBowl Song: Dread Pitt - Last Time.
The feeling after completing my first coaching trip to Canada. I think back to years ago when I would walk up n down Rundle Mall in lil' Adelaide, for hours at a time, shit scared to meet anyone, let alone an attractive woman. I remember spending arvos in Roy's driveway, practicing my approach on him and Matt. That was all back in 2012. In 2019, I'm now entrusted to guide those who are starting in a similar place. And for that, I can only express my deepest gratitude. It blows me away that my content can reach someone in another land, and make them trust in the energy. It drives me to do everything I can to honour that trust... for example: I had 1 free day after camp before flying back to Aus, and instead of sight seeing, less than 12hrs after camp ended I was back deep in the work: filmed/edited/produced my client's Boot camp summary video, put together his entire post-camp package including edited infield footage w/ personal notes, both txt game/day2 strategy guides, sent that off. I then recorded an indepth video for the channel re: keys to transforming your dating life. This took all day, and certainly could have waited until I got back to Australia. No, it couldn't. Because I might not be alive tomorrow, but I am today, and making sure I deliver leagues beyond my client's expectations, and my own, is how I sleep at night. It's a balance I have no balance in. I want to know that when my time is done, I drank from the cup I chose.
The feeling after completing my first coaching trip to Canada. I think back to years ago when I would walk up n down Rundle Mall in lil' Adelaide, for hours at a time, shit scared to meet anyone, let alone an attractive woman. I remember spending arvos in Roy's driveway, practicing my approach on him and Matt. That was all back in 2012. In 2019, I'm now entrusted to guide those who are starting in a similar place. And for that, I can only express my deepest gratitude. It blows me away that my content can reach someone in another land, and make them trust in the energy. It drives me to do everything I can to honour that trust... for example: I had 1 free day after camp before flying back to Aus, and instead of sight seeing, less than 12hrs after camp ended I was back deep in the work: filmed/edited/produced my client's Boot camp summary video, put together his entire post-camp package including edited infield footage w/ personal notes, both txt game/day2 strategy guides, sent that off. I then recorded an indepth video for the channel re: keys to transforming your dating life. This took all day, and certainly could have waited until I got back to Australia. No, it couldn't. Because I might not be alive tomorrow, but I am today, and making sure I deliver leagues beyond my client's expectations, and my own, is how I sleep at night. It's a balance I have no balance in. I want to know that when my time is done, I drank from the cup I chose.
And we made it... just. The journey to Toronto got off to a wild start this morning, I was very close to not making this flight. I was preparing some delicious eggs & roo to fly with, and I get the notif that my flight from Adelaide to NZ is delayed. Delayed enough that I probably won't make the connecting flight to Canada. Via the grace of the gods and after multiple ticket changes, preparing to stay the night in NZ/ arriving in Tor 12hrs before coaching Boot camp, uncooked eggs and roo left in the kitchen... I made it. Now as tradition states, we get that international departing photo at the back of the plane... the airhostess was rather unfriendly about it (rare though, they're normally more than happy to help me out), and of the two shots she took, I wanted to post this imperfect one. The other is crisp, this is off. And I think that's far more representative of how this morning and adventure began. I'm sitting here 39K Feet above the earth and realising that I wouldn't be here without the wisdom of my Mum to tell me to get to the airport anyway and hustle them at the service desk, without the expert driving skills of my bro to get me there, and some strange belief that no matter what shit goes down, I've got my purpose to serve and I will not be denied. So stay loose my friends, I'll update you via the story when we touchdown. For now, Jaa. theadventurecontinues
And we made it... just. The journey to Toronto got off to a wild start this morning, I was very close to not making this flight. I was preparing some delicious eggs & roo to fly with, and I get the notif that my flight from Adelaide to NZ is delayed. Delayed enough that I probably won't make the connecting flight to Canada. Via the grace of the gods and after multiple ticket changes, preparing to stay the night in NZ/ arriving in Tor 12hrs before coaching Boot camp, uncooked eggs and roo left in the kitchen... I made it. Now as tradition states, we get that international departing photo at the back of the plane... the airhostess was rather unfriendly about it (rare though, they're normally more than happy to help me out), and of the two shots she took, I wanted to post this imperfect one. The other is crisp, this is off. And I think that's far more representative of how this morning and adventure began. I'm sitting here 39K Feet above the earth and realising that I wouldn't be here without the wisdom of my Mum to tell me to get to the airport anyway and hustle them at the service desk, without the expert driving skills of my bro to get me there, and some strange belief that no matter what shit goes down, I've got my purpose to serve and I will not be denied. So stay loose my friends, I'll update you via the story when we touchdown. For now, Jaa. >theadventurecontinues<
"When they show you darkness, you show them love." 1/7/19, The Meditation. • A meditation I worked on at the beginning of the week that's been lingering in my soul. I encountered a person prior to this meditation that was in a very dark place, and not even directly towards me, just unconsciously spilling that darkness into the space around us. It would have been easy to buy into their darkness and think "Well, that's their problem. Has nothing to do with me.".. but it has everything to do with me, I am them. So in the moment when I felt their dark oil spilling, I consciously chose to overwhelm them with love. They barely accepted it, and even pushed back when it became too much. I was happy with this and spent the night meditating on it. Let me know how your meditation practice is going if you have one & share this with someone close ❤
The drive for external validation will only burn you in the end. While the journey of internal validation can be a long and painful one, it's the pain of growth, which is fulfilling to a degree which you'll never know until you realise it for yourself. Tag/share this with someone close & Drop me your thoughts in a comment below ❤ #TheBowl
"Heaven is eternal–the earth endures. Why do heaven and earth last forever? They do not live for themselves only. This is the secret of their durability. For this reason the sage puts himself last and so ends up ahead. He stays a witness to life, so he endures. Serve the needs of others, and all your own needs will be fulfilled. Through selfless action, fulfillment is attained." -Lao Tzu, 7th verse, Tao Te Ching. A client brought this fundamental teaching from the Tao to my attention over the weekend, so I decided to revisit it and see what came up. I’ve always referred to the Tao as a guide to living, and in particular from this verse “Serve the needs of others, and all your own needs will be fulfilled...” has been something I’ve strived to live as best I can. I remember reading this verse in my first Tao-dive at 18 years old, and much like all the other verses I needed weeks to absorb and apply Lao-Tzu’s wisdom. At the time, I was very self-centered and only looking to further my own gain in life. To practice this teaching was like pulling teeth at first, but looking at it now almost 8 years later, I can’t imagine another way of being. At the core, it’s unimaginable to act in another way, because I don’t see myself as separate to others. We're all one. Tag/Share this with someone who can relate, and drop me your thoughts on this 7th verse in a comment below! Music Track: Stumble - Colson XL
Flashback Friday to when I was in the Army Cadets c.September 2009. I joined the ACs with @thelarakin_travel and another mate purely because I was planning on going into the army straight out of highschool. I thought it would be great experience, and a good time... yeah nah. To be 100% honest, I absolutely hated my time in ACs. It was the dogmatic philosophy of following orders even if they made no sense, just because someone said so. I almost got into 2 fights in my time there... one was because Sgt.Killin (no joke, that was his last name) screamed at me multiple times while marching because my shirt was one button undone. It took everything I had to not double leg him and lace up that rear naked choke...The button had fallen off, I couldn't do anything about it 🤬... I was an emotional 16 something yr old. Unlike in the U.S, it was very uncommon to be in the cadets during high school, I could literally count on one hand how many people in my entire high school that were involved. Most of the recruits were misfits from other schools that had major behavioural issues (not all, shoutout to Cailin who was a stand up lad), and I just knew these weren't my kind of people. I will say this though, it was my experience in the cadets that showed me how I wanted to live. It's just as valuable to experience what doesn't work for you as for what does. Oh I also thank them for teaching me the phonetic alphabet. Juliet Juliet Alpha.
Flashback Friday to when I was in the Army Cadets c.September 2009. I joined the ACs with @thelarakin_travel and another mate purely because I was planning on going into the army straight out of highschool. I thought it would be great experience, and a good time... yeah nah. To be 100% honest, I absolutely hated my time in ACs. It was the dogmatic philosophy of following orders even if they made no sense, just because someone said so. I almost got into 2 fights in my time there... one was because Sgt.Killin (no joke, that was his last name) screamed at me multiple times while marching because my shirt was one button undone. It took everything I had to not double leg him and lace up that rear naked choke...The button had fallen off, I couldn't do anything about it 🤬... I was an emotional 16 something yr old. Unlike in the U.S, it was very uncommon to be in the cadets during high school, I could literally count on one hand how many people in my entire high school that were involved. Most of the recruits were misfits from other schools that had major behavioural issues (not all, shoutout to Cailin who was a stand up lad), and I just knew these weren't my kind of people. I will say this though, it was my experience in the cadets that showed me how I wanted to live. It's just as valuable to experience what doesn't work for you as for what does. Oh I also thank them for teaching me the phonetic alphabet. Juliet Juliet Alpha.
"Let me do the best I can today." A short phrase from the end of a client boot camp summary video, filmed at my AirBnB in NYC before flying back to Aus today. I always wrap these client summaries with the hope, the light that I believe they can get it done, if they're willing to put the work in. I've seen it done, I had to do it myself. I truly believe that the only way to maintain the legs in the journey of Self-cultivation is to focus on one day at a time. Otherwise it's just too overwhelming. Transformation isn't something that appears overnight, it's just that one day you'll step back and see just how far you've come, but only if you do the best you can each and every single day. Success belongs to those who show up, every and every single day.
Waking up this morning after coaching an incredible Boot camp. I opened my eyes and felt extreme validation; validated by the work. It's the only thing in this life that I allow my ego to dine on, the service of others. I'm not at the point in life where I wish to relinquish my ability to work through the imagined concept of "Adam". That Adam still has much work to do. But before I lose too many of you, I refer to this as the "inner temple" aka who you really are, in relation to the outer temple self that we engage the world with. I've discussed it publicly a few times, and privately even more, my desire to spend a large portion of time disconnected from the world of the cities, to hit the monastery in a far away land, and experience life as life, with no Adam required. I feel that I would need at least 6 months to do that justice though, and at this stage, I can't bare to take a day away from my meaningful work. So for now, I'll keep laying bricks, building my temple, and helping others to do the same. Thank you to every single being I came into contact with during these past 2 weeks, NYC you're an incredible place and I'll be back again I'm sure.
Waking up this morning after coaching an incredible Boot camp. I opened my eyes and felt extreme validation; validated by the work. It's the only thing in this life that I allow my ego to dine on, the service of others. I'm not at the point in life where I wish to relinquish my ability to work through the imagined concept of "Adam". That Adam still has much work to do. But before I lose too many of you, I refer to this as the "inner temple" aka who you really are, in relation to the outer temple self that we engage the world with. I've discussed it publicly a few times, and privately even more, my desire to spend a large portion of time disconnected from the world of the cities, to hit the monastery in a far away land, and experience life as life, with no Adam required. I feel that I would need at least 6 months to do that justice though, and at this stage, I can't bare to take a day away from my meaningful work. So for now, I'll keep laying bricks, building my temple, and helping others to do the same. Thank you to every single being I came into contact with during these past 2 weeks, NYC you're an incredible place and I'll be back again I'm sure.
When 2 people can come together and say "I don't need you, and you don't need me", the true blossoming of an abundant relationship can happen. The principle: the more you need me, the less I want you. Tag someone who needs to hear this, and drop me your thoughts in a comment below ❤ #TheBowl
"If you woke up today, you won.” The Meditation, 5/7/19. I think we sometimes forget how inconceivable it is to be alive. The mysteries of the universe may never be known to us, but one thing we do know is that we have right now. In my nightly meditations when I focus on the lesson of the day, this rang true. "I woke up today, that’s insane. I already won. Everything else I did was bonus”. It's no doubt that my appreciation for the fact that I’m even alive is what drives me to make the most of everyday. And what’s even more interesting is that people who have no drive for life often take it for granted… Gratitude = An engine that fuels itself. Tag someone who also gets up on life! Drop me your thoughts in a comment below ❤️ #TheBowl Song: Dread Pitt - Last Time.
The feeling after completing my first coaching trip to Canada. I think back to years ago when I would walk up n down Rundle Mall in lil' Adelaide, for hours at a time, shit scared to meet anyone, let alone an attractive woman. I remember spending arvos in Roy's driveway, practicing my approach on him and Matt. That was all back in 2012. In 2019, I'm now entrusted to guide those who are starting in a similar place. And for that, I can only express my deepest gratitude. It blows me away that my content can reach someone in another land, and make them trust in the energy. It drives me to do everything I can to honour that trust... for example: I had 1 free day after camp before flying back to Aus, and instead of sight seeing, less than 12hrs after camp ended I was back deep in the work: filmed/edited/produced my client's Boot camp summary video, put together his entire post-camp package including edited infield footage w/ personal notes, both txt game/day2 strategy guides, sent that off. I then recorded an indepth video for the channel re: keys to transforming your dating life. This took all day, and certainly could have waited until I got back to Australia. No, it couldn't. Because I might not be alive tomorrow, but I am today, and making sure I deliver leagues beyond my client's expectations, and my own, is how I sleep at night. It's a balance I have no balance in. I want to know that when my time is done, I drank from the cup I chose. And we made it... just. The journey to Toronto got off to a wild start this morning, I was very close to not making this flight. I was preparing some delicious eggs & roo to fly with, and I get the notif that my flight from Adelaide to NZ is delayed. Delayed enough that I probably won't make the connecting flight to Canada. Via the grace of the gods and after multiple ticket changes, preparing to stay the night in NZ/ arriving in Tor 12hrs before coaching Boot camp, uncooked eggs and roo left in the kitchen... I made it. Now as tradition states, we get that international departing photo at the back of the plane... the airhostess was rather unfriendly about it (rare though, they're normally more than happy to help me out), and of the two shots she took, I wanted to post this imperfect one. The other is crisp, this is off. And I think that's far more representative of how this morning and adventure began. I'm sitting here 39K Feet above the earth and realising that I wouldn't be here without the wisdom of my Mum to tell me to get to the airport anyway and hustle them at the service desk, without the expert driving skills of my bro to get me there, and some strange belief that no matter what shit goes down, I've got my purpose to serve and I will not be denied. So stay loose my friends, I'll update you via the story when we touchdown. For now, Jaa. theadventurecontinues
"When they show you darkness, you show them love." 1/7/19, The Meditation. • A meditation I worked on at the beginning of the week that's been lingering in my soul. I encountered a person prior to this meditation that was in a very dark place, and not even directly towards me, just unconsciously spilling that darkness into the space around us. It would have been easy to buy into their darkness and think "Well, that's their problem. Has nothing to do with me.".. but it has everything to do with me, I am them. So in the moment when I felt their dark oil spilling, I consciously chose to overwhelm them with love. They barely accepted it, and even pushed back when it became too much. I was happy with this and spent the night meditating on it. Let me know how your meditation practice is going if you have one & share this with someone close ❤
The drive for external validation will only burn you in the end. While the journey of internal validation can be a long and painful one, it's the pain of growth, which is fulfilling to a degree which you'll never know until you realise it for yourself. Tag/share this with someone close & Drop me your thoughts in a comment below ❤ #TheBowl
"Heaven is eternal–the earth endures. Why do heaven and earth last forever? They do not live for themselves only. This is the secret of their durability. For this reason the sage puts himself last and so ends up ahead. He stays a witness to life, so he endures. Serve the needs of others, and all your own needs will be fulfilled. Through selfless action, fulfillment is attained." -Lao Tzu, 7th verse, Tao Te Ching. A client brought this fundamental teaching from the Tao to my attention over the weekend, so I decided to revisit it and see what came up. I’ve always referred to the Tao as a guide to living, and in particular from this verse “Serve the needs of others, and all your own needs will be fulfilled...” has been something I’ve strived to live as best I can. I remember reading this verse in my first Tao-dive at 18 years old, and much like all the other verses I needed weeks to absorb and apply Lao-Tzu’s wisdom. At the time, I was very self-centered and only looking to further my own gain in life. To practice this teaching was like pulling teeth at first, but looking at it now almost 8 years later, I can’t imagine another way of being. At the core, it’s unimaginable to act in another way, because I don’t see myself as separate to others. We're all one. Tag/Share this with someone who can relate, and drop me your thoughts on this 7th verse in a comment below! Music Track: Stumble - Colson XL
Flashback Friday to when I was in the Army Cadets c.September 2009. I joined the ACs with @thelarakin_travel and another mate purely because I was planning on going into the army straight out of highschool. I thought it would be great experience, and a good time... yeah nah. To be 100% honest, I absolutely hated my time in ACs. It was the dogmatic philosophy of following orders even if they made no sense, just because someone said so. I almost got into 2 fights in my time there... one was because Sgt.Killin (no joke, that was his last name) screamed at me multiple times while marching because my shirt was one button undone. It took everything I had to not double leg him and lace up that rear naked choke...The button had fallen off, I couldn't do anything about it 🤬... I was an emotional 16 something yr old. Unlike in the U.S, it was very uncommon to be in the cadets during high school, I could literally count on one hand how many people in my entire high school that were involved. Most of the recruits were misfits from other schools that had major behavioural issues (not all, shoutout to Cailin who was a stand up lad), and I just knew these weren't my kind of people. I will say this though, it was my experience in the cadets that showed me how I wanted to live. It's just as valuable to experience what doesn't work for you as for what does. Oh I also thank them for teaching me the phonetic alphabet. Juliet Juliet Alpha.
"Let me do the best I can today." A short phrase from the end of a client boot camp summary video, filmed at my AirBnB in NYC before flying back to Aus today. I always wrap these client summaries with the hope, the light that I believe they can get it done, if they're willing to put the work in. I've seen it done, I had to do it myself. I truly believe that the only way to maintain the legs in the journey of Self-cultivation is to focus on one day at a time. Otherwise it's just too overwhelming. Transformation isn't something that appears overnight, it's just that one day you'll step back and see just how far you've come, but only if you do the best you can each and every single day. Success belongs to those who show up, every and every single day.
Waking up this morning after coaching an incredible Boot camp. I opened my eyes and felt extreme validation; validated by the work. It's the only thing in this life that I allow my ego to dine on, the service of others. I'm not at the point in life where I wish to relinquish my ability to work through the imagined concept of "Adam". That Adam still has much work to do. But before I lose too many of you, I refer to this as the "inner temple" aka who you really are, in relation to the outer temple self that we engage the world with. I've discussed it publicly a few times, and privately even more, my desire to spend a large portion of time disconnected from the world of the cities, to hit the monastery in a far away land, and experience life as life, with no Adam required. I feel that I would need at least 6 months to do that justice though, and at this stage, I can't bare to take a day away from my meaningful work. So for now, I'll keep laying bricks, building my temple, and helping others to do the same. Thank you to every single being I came into contact with during these past 2 weeks, NYC you're an incredible place and I'll be back again I'm sure.