What exactly is a Social Dynamics Coach?
Hey guys it’s Adam here and I am the man behind The Bowl. I began my journey of Self-Cultivation roughly 7 years ago at the time of writing this (2018) and like most guys I started at a very low place. At age 17, I was crippled by social anxiety, I had no freedom of choice in my dating life and the very idea of speaking to a random person freaked me out. I am the founder and lead instructor here at The Bowl and if I had to sum up what I teach in 3 words it would be
‘Direct, Congruent and Authentic’.
I don’t believe in wasting mine or woman’s time, so I live by these words.
Why is it called ‘The Bowl’? Well it originally was just a secret FB group between one of my closest friends (Roy) and I back in high school. We would share everything to do with our journey into cold approach/life, and because I spent most of my time meeting people in the day, and Roy mostly met people during the night, we called it “The Bowl”, because it was the place where everything could mix. Since then I’ve just decided to run with it and let it blossom and evolve into the home of Self-Cultivation.
I was first introduced to ”cold approach pick up” by Roy who met a local PUA at the gym. At first I heavily resisted the idea of pick up and thought those guys were just shallow players (this is what I call “White Knight Adam" Stage”), but as fate would have it, I eventually fell in love with the idea of bettering myself, creating a new lifestyle and enjoying all the crazy adventures this journey has to offer.
From ages 17-19, after a couple frustrating years of intermittently attempting to learn social skills with women, I had my “fuck it” moment! I was sitting in a bean bag, playing some Call of Duty Black Ops 2 with some pizza hut. It was a Saturday night and this was all I had planned… at this very moment I said to myself “…surely there is more to life than this!?”. Even if it’s not going out to clubs and bars because I didn’t enjoy those types of places at the time, surely I could be sharing this moment with a beautiful woman. On the same night, my wing (Matt) who was further down the journey than I was, called me suggesting the idea of a 30 day challenge. I had never heard of this concept before, and based on my current situation of having been in “the journey” for 2 years at this point, with a grand total of 0 Dates (Day2s) and 0 Sexual interactions (Lays), I thought “why the fuck not, I can’t really get any lower at this point.”.
So for the next 30 days I went out every day and saw exponential, compounded growth that blew my mind.
To cut the 30 Day Challenge story short, at the end I was seeing 3 different girls in casual relationships, had finally been sexually intimate with a girl from cold approach and a month after the challenge was over I met “my 10” and spent the next 2 years with her.
Once I had transformed myself, it wasn't the women that had validated me, it was the self-cultivation, the work, the person I had become that had brought me my self-worth.
During that 2 year relationship I began coaching guys in Adelaide for free with one of my wings Jordan. Eventually we realised we had something here and started putting together professional boot camps in both the day and the night. In march of 2015 we decided to really go hard at it, kicking off The Bowl website and Youtube Channel. We then spent the next year travelling around the country teaching Boot Camps. In early 2016 Jordan decided to move on from The Bowl in order to find and develop himself, there was no bad blood left between us, and I wish him the absolute best in life.
So now I am running the ship solo and really getting my message out there that everyone deserves the freedom of choice in their dating life, and to a larger extent, to walk the journey of building one’s temple. My ‘why’ and what motivates me is to guide people on their journey's of Self-Cultivation, to give back what I've learnt along my journey, so that the path may be simpler for someone else.
If you think you're ready to dive into the next level of deeper coaching, then check out the Boot Camp page HERE.
The journey will always be your journey,
Much Peace and Much Joy!
If you want to get an EVEN DEEPER understanding of where I came from, check this potto:
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