What exactly is a Social Dynamics Coach?

Hey guys it’s Adam here and I am the man behind The Bowl. I began my journey of Self-Cultivation roughly 7 years ago at the time of writing this (2018) and like most guys I started at a very low place. At age 17, I was crippled by social anxiety, I had no freedom of choice in my dating life and the very idea of speaking to a random person freaked me out. I am the founder and lead instructor here at The Bowl and if I had to sum up what I teach in 3 words it would be
‘Direct, Congruent and Authentic’. 
I don’t believe in wasting mine or woman’s time, so I live by these words.

Why is it called ‘The Bowl’? Well it originally was just a secret FB group between one of my closest friends (Roy) and I back in high school. We would share everything to do with our journey into cold approach/life, and because I spent most of my time meeting people in the day, and Roy mostly met people during the night, we called it “The Bowl”, because it was the place where everything could mix. Since then I’ve just decided to run with it and let it blossom and evolve into the home of Self-Cultivation.

My Story

I was first introduced to ”cold approach pick up” by Roy who met a local PUA at the gym. At first I heavily resisted the idea of pick up and thought those guys were just shallow players (this is what I call “White Knight Adam" Stage”), but as fate would have it, I eventually fell in love with the idea of bettering myself, creating a new lifestyle and enjoying all the crazy adventures this journey has to offer.

From ages 17-19, after a couple frustrating years of intermittently attempting to learn social skills with women, I had my “fuck it” moment! I was sitting in a bean bag, playing some Call of Duty Black Ops 2 with some pizza hut. It was a Saturday night and this was all I had planned… at this very moment I said to myself “…surely there is more to life than this!?”. Even if it’s not going out to clubs and bars because I didn’t enjoy those types of places at the time, surely I could be sharing this moment with a beautiful woman. On the same night, my wing (Matt) who was further down the journey than I was, called me suggesting the idea of a 30 day challenge. I had never heard of this concept before, and based on my current situation of having been in “the journey” for 2 years at this point, with a grand total of 0 Dates (Day2s) and 0 Sexual interactions (Lays), I thought “why the fuck not, I can’t really get any lower at this point.”.
So for the next 30 days I went out every day and saw exponential, compounded growth that blew my mind.
To cut the 30 Day Challenge story short, at the end I was seeing 3 different girls in casual relationships, had finally been sexually intimate with a girl from cold approach and a month after the challenge was over I met “my 10” and spent the next 2 years with her.
Once I had transformed myself, it wasn't the women that had validated me, it was the self-cultivation, the work, the person I had become that had brought me my self-worth.

During that 2 year relationship I began coaching guys in Adelaide for free with one of my wings Jordan. Eventually we realised we had something here and started putting together professional boot camps in both the day and the night. In march of 2015 we decided to really go hard at it, kicking off The Bowl website and Youtube Channel. We then spent the next year travelling around the country teaching Boot Camps. In early 2016 Jordan decided to move on from The Bowl in order to find and develop himself, there was no bad blood left between us, and I wish him the absolute best in life.

So now I am running the ship solo and really getting my message out there that everyone deserves the freedom of choice in their dating life, and to a larger extent, to walk the journey of building one’s temple. My ‘why’ and what motivates me is to guide people on their journey's of Self-Cultivation, to give back what I've learnt along my journey, so that the path may be simpler for someone else.
If you think you're ready to dive into the next level of deeper coaching, then check out the Boot Camp page HERE.

The journey will always be your journey,
Much Peace and Much Joy!
Adam.

If you want to get an EVEN DEEPER understanding of where I came from, check this potto:

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I think true happiness comes from deep fulfillment, and deep fulfillment comes from being immersed in your meaningful work. I never feel any happier than after finishing a session with a client, and it's simultaneously paired with extreme exhaustion. Somewhere along the way society decided that "ease" was the way to happiness. I think this was a huge mistake. Ease provides shorts term pleasure, but inevitably long term pain. Nothing fulfilling comes from taking the short term easiness. Everything good in this life comes from the discipline to work for what means most to us. #sharpentheblade
I think true happiness comes from deep fulfillment, and deep fulfillment comes from being immersed in your meaningful work. I never feel any happier than after finishing a session with a client, and it's simultaneously paired with extreme exhaustion. Somewhere along the way society decided that "ease" was the way to happiness. I think this was a huge mistake. Ease provides shorts term pleasure, but inevitably long term pain. Nothing fulfilling comes from taking the short term easiness. Everything good in this life comes from the discipline to work for what means most to us. #sharpentheblade
Life in our form is too rare to spend in a restricted manner. I've been meeting countless people during my time in NYC, from poor inner city kids to rich city acting graduates, and each encounter has reminded me to engorge this existence with all my power. Riding the subway for the first time yesterday I observed people for over an hour; A father and his kids coming back from baseball training, a mother and two children with handcrafted chairs from school, two british backpackers drained from a day of exploring, and the list goes on. I studied each set of lives with great interest, doing my best to understand that these people all existed before I arrived, and may well exist long after I'm gone. I slept last night reflecting; The human condition is rare. It's duration too short to waste doing something you hate. Why subject your soul to live in restriction? We're all one.
Life in our form is too rare to spend in a restricted manner. I've been meeting countless people during my time in NYC, from poor inner city kids to rich city acting graduates, and each encounter has reminded me to engorge this existence with all my power. Riding the subway for the first time yesterday I observed people for over an hour; A father and his kids coming back from baseball training, a mother and two children with handcrafted chairs from school, two british backpackers drained from a day of exploring, and the list goes on. I studied each set of lives with great interest, doing my best to understand that these people all existed before I arrived, and may well exist long after I'm gone. I slept last night reflecting; The human condition is rare. It's duration too short to waste doing something you hate. Why subject your soul to live in restriction? We're all one.
Bucketlist item COMPLETE. It's been my childhood dream to visit the Seinfeld Restaurant aka @tomsrestaurantnyc I loved the show as a kid, but really dived into it during high school (some mates and I even had a Sein FB chat purely for quotes). In my Resources of Wisdom, Seinfeld is ranked as No.6 in the TV/Anime/Docos section, yeah that's right. Aside from the timeless comedy, I've derived so much wisdom from this show. The show represents the epitome of just doing you. It wasn't popular at all to begin with, not until the 3rd season, and in interviews of the cast they said "it didn't matter how big we got, we just came to work to do our little show." It's such a north star to believe in yourself and forget about the rest. Thank you to all involved in bringing Seinfeld to light, it's had an impact on my life I could never fully describe. #thatsgoldjerrygold #seinfeld
Bucketlist item COMPLETE. It's been my childhood dream to visit the Seinfeld Restaurant aka @tomsrestaurantnyc I loved the show as a kid, but really dived into it during high school (some mates and I even had a Sein FB chat purely for quotes). In my Resources of Wisdom, Seinfeld is ranked as No.6 in the TV/Anime/Docos section, yeah that's right. Aside from the timeless comedy, I've derived so much wisdom from this show. The show represents the epitome of just doing you. It wasn't popular at all to begin with, not until the 3rd season, and in interviews of the cast they said "it didn't matter how big we got, we just came to work to do our little show." It's such a north star to believe in yourself and forget about the rest. Thank you to all involved in bringing Seinfeld to light, it's had an impact on my life I could never fully describe. #thatsgoldjerrygold #seinfeld
1. Give Love. 2. Ask for nothing in return. I'll meet you outside." This is how my client and I finished out a ripper of a session yesterday. After spending 90mins discussing all manners of deep social dynamics, particularly around Egoic attachment, I made sure we grounded ourselves with real world affect at the end. I told him that he had to go up to any stranger inside this cafe, and just give them some love, in the form of a well-wish of any kind. I then got up, turned around saw the nearest person closest to me (shy, nerdy looking girl on her laptop) and proceeded to give her that love, wishing her a great life and introducing myself. I felt a tap on my back and felt my client walk past on his way to take action. I didn't stay to watch, I trusted that he would follow through. I waited outside and he emerged 1% more developed, and then approached the two girls who took this photo for us. Give, because its rewards are limitless, both for the receiver and yourself.
1. Give Love. 2. Ask for nothing in return. I'll meet you outside." This is how my client and I finished out a ripper of a session yesterday. After spending 90mins discussing all manners of deep social dynamics, particularly around Egoic attachment, I made sure we grounded ourselves with real world affect at the end. I told him that he had to go up to any stranger inside this cafe, and just give them some love, in the form of a well-wish of any kind. I then got up, turned around saw the nearest person closest to me (shy, nerdy looking girl on her laptop) and proceeded to give her that love, wishing her a great life and introducing myself. I felt a tap on my back and felt my client walk past on his way to take action. I didn't stay to watch, I trusted that he would follow through. I waited outside and he emerged 1% more developed, and then approached the two girls who took this photo for us. Give, because its rewards are limitless, both for the receiver and yourself.
Sitting on the steps this morning, fulfilled after coaching an intense Boot camp in NYC. During the final debrief with my client last night I was humbled, humbled by his desire to change. In his words "I'm just excited to get back out there and get this shit done." I told him the only differentiator between success and failure is the work. I'm not special, I only changed myself through the work. And for all of my other clients that have realised an evolution, they simply did the work. Successful work involves self-awareness, correct principles and tactics to execute. But at a core level, none of those even come into play until you actually get out there and do the damn thing. Whatever path of evolution you've chosen, be it social dynamics or not, the work is your oxygen, your light forward. #thebowl
Sitting on the steps this morning, fulfilled after coaching an intense Boot camp in NYC. During the final debrief with my client last night I was humbled, humbled by his desire to change. In his words "I'm just excited to get back out there and get this shit done." I told him the only differentiator between success and failure is the work. I'm not special, I only changed myself through the work. And for all of my other clients that have realised an evolution, they simply did the work. Successful work involves self-awareness, correct principles and tactics to execute. But at a core level, none of those even come into play until you actually get out there and do the damn thing. Whatever path of evolution you've chosen, be it social dynamics or not, the work is your oxygen, your light forward. #thebowl
"They want us for their wars, they send us to fight, but they don't want us to live here. they don't see us." Fernando the Puerto Rican, The Power of How Are You? P.4: 7/6/19. It was 9am and I came down onto the street from my NYC AirBnB, ready to meet Henry the repairs guy, however, waiting there was Fernando, dressed in white and ready to repair, just not for me. No matter, my genuine "How are you?" again had me deep in the story of this beautiful soul. We stood there totally immersed talking about the culture of NYC and how the cost of living is hard for so many. 20 minutes had gone by, and I felt the energy of the conversation shift from culture swapping, to emotional hurt. Without my direct prompt, but just through a casual comment I made about "Trump sending people back", Fernando's pain around "not being seen" started to seep. With his rich Puerto Rican accent he passionately discussed how painful it was to see his countrymen being used to fight American wars, but not being recognised as Americans when they came home. "They want us for their wars, they send us to fight, but they don't want us to live here. they don't see us." I didn't pretend to know anything about this, so I used my eyes to connect with him. I felt locked in his gaze, as he poured his heart into me. I said very little, and listened a whole lot. Next thing we knew a tall man pulled up in a sleek black sedan, it was Fernando's boss "Ben", I shook his hand, and politely asked Fernando's permission to take a photo. We may never meet again Mr. Fernando, and you'll likely never see this post, but please know, I see you. #thepowerofhowareyou
"They want us for their wars, they send us to fight, but they don't want us to live here. they don't see us." Fernando the Puerto Rican, The Power of How Are You? P.4: 7/6/19. It was 9am and I came down onto the street from my NYC AirBnB, ready to meet Henry the repairs guy, however, waiting there was Fernando, dressed in white and ready to repair, just not for me. No matter, my genuine "How are you?" again had me deep in the story of this beautiful soul. We stood there totally immersed talking about the culture of NYC and how the cost of living is hard for so many. 20 minutes had gone by, and I felt the energy of the conversation shift from culture swapping, to emotional hurt. Without my direct prompt, but just through a casual comment I made about "Trump sending people back", Fernando's pain around "not being seen" started to seep. With his rich Puerto Rican accent he passionately discussed how painful it was to see his countrymen being used to fight American wars, but not being recognised as Americans when they came home. "They want us for their wars, they send us to fight, but they don't want us to live here. they don't see us." I didn't pretend to know anything about this, so I used my eyes to connect with him. I felt locked in his gaze, as he poured his heart into me. I said very little, and listened a whole lot. Next thing we knew a tall man pulled up in a sleek black sedan, it was Fernando's boss "Ben", I shook his hand, and politely asked Fernando's permission to take a photo. We may never meet again Mr. Fernando, and you'll likely never see this post, but please know, I see you. #thepowerofhowareyou
The Power of How Are You? P.3: Adam: What's the most important 2 or 3 things when it comes to leadership and comms? Heather: Having lots of conversations and listening intensely. Adam: Why those 2 things? Heather: Because, you have to be able to understand people. Adam: .........*staring into the ceiling of the plane absorbing that wisdom.* - I had the absolute pleasure of sitting next to Leadership & Communication Coach Heather Forton (All In Mind Leadership) while flying from Adelaide to Melbourne (the night before heading to the U.S). We had never met before, but through my default genuine "How are you?" we dived in. Going back and forth on how each of us runs our own respective coaching businesses, I spent real time diving into her principles re: coaching corporate teams in leadership and comms. I learnt much from Heather, it's conversations like this that I live for, and they all start with The Power of How Are You? #thepowerofhowareyou
The Power of How Are You? P.3: Adam: What's the most important 2 or 3 things when it comes to leadership and comms? Heather: Having lots of conversations and listening intensely. Adam: Why those 2 things? Heather: Because, you have to be able to understand people. Adam: .........*staring into the ceiling of the plane absorbing that wisdom.* - I had the absolute pleasure of sitting next to Leadership & Communication Coach Heather Forton (All In Mind Leadership) while flying from Adelaide to Melbourne (the night before heading to the U.S). We had never met before, but through my default genuine "How are you?" we dived in. Going back and forth on how each of us runs our own respective coaching businesses, I spent real time diving into her principles re: coaching corporate teams in leadership and comms. I learnt much from Heather, it's conversations like this that I live for, and they all start with The Power of How Are You? #thepowerofhowareyou
After one of the most intense journeys of my life to date: - Fasting across 24hrs of international travel. - Meditation or conversation only throughout the entire flight time. I felt like I had my soul reconfigured stepping out into the JFK parking lot, and so grateful to be whisked away by the mystical driver Mr.Bilal from Blacklane. I mentioned in my story that I recorded a podcast on the plane, so I'll save the details for that, but just know I almost broke on the flight from L.A to J.F.K... It's a new morning in NYC and I'm off to get shit done before coaching tomorrow. Jaa!
After one of the most intense journeys of my life to date: - Fasting across 24hrs of international travel. - Meditation or conversation only throughout the entire flight time. I felt like I had my soul reconfigured stepping out into the JFK parking lot, and so grateful to be whisked away by the mystical driver Mr.Bilal from Blacklane. I mentioned in my story that I recorded a podcast on the plane, so I'll save the details for that, but just know I almost broke on the flight from L.A to J.F.K... It's a new morning in NYC and I'm off to get shit done before coaching tomorrow. Jaa!
The traditional COME AT ME international flight photo. Although this time it's more like "COME BE WITH ME". The journey to NYC begins. People are super friendly. Got a spare sear in-between the veterinarian Nisha next to me, she's chill. Life is good!
The traditional COME AT ME international flight photo. Although this time it's more like "COME BE WITH ME". The journey to NYC begins. People are super friendly. Got a spare sear in-between the veterinarian Nisha next to me, she's chill. Life is good!
"Let go your earthly tether. Enter the void. Empty, and become wind." - Guru Laghima, Avatar Korra, Ep38 5min. These words, are something I've been integrating into my daily life and zen practice for a couple months now. I often find myself reciting the words as I enter my cold shower first thing every morning. I can't rush them in my mind, to rush through it is to succumb to the brutality of the cold. But as I slowly breathe through my nose only, I complete each section of this quote and the next thing I know, my body has completley adapted to the cold as if it were warm water, having lost all sense of who I am. When ever I find myself about to go over the cliff of overwhelm, I say these words, and feel the truth they point to, and it brings me back up. You could call it a mantra, you could call it a teacher. I try not to call it at all.
"Let go your earthly tether. Enter the void. Empty, and become wind." - Guru Laghima, Avatar Korra, Ep38 5min. These words, are something I've been integrating into my daily life and zen practice for a couple months now. I often find myself reciting the words as I enter my cold shower first thing every morning. I can't rush them in my mind, to rush through it is to succumb to the brutality of the cold. But as I slowly breathe through my nose only, I complete each section of this quote and the next thing I know, my body has completley adapted to the cold as if it were warm water, having lost all sense of who I am. When ever I find myself about to go over the cliff of overwhelm, I say these words, and feel the truth they point to, and it brings me back up. You could call it a mantra, you could call it a teacher. I try not to call it at all.
I think true happiness comes from deep fulfillment, and deep fulfillment comes from being immersed in your meaningful work. I never feel any happier than after finishing a session with a client, and it's simultaneously paired with extreme exhaustion. Somewhere along the way society decided that "ease" was the way to happiness. I think this was a huge mistake. Ease provides shorts term pleasure, but inevitably long term pain. Nothing fulfilling comes from taking the short term easiness. Everything good in this life comes from the discipline to work for what means most to us. #sharpentheblade Life in our form is too rare to spend in a restricted manner. I've been meeting countless people during my time in NYC, from poor inner city kids to rich city acting graduates, and each encounter has reminded me to engorge this existence with all my power. Riding the subway for the first time yesterday I observed people for over an hour; A father and his kids coming back from baseball training, a mother and two children with handcrafted chairs from school, two british backpackers drained from a day of exploring, and the list goes on. I studied each set of lives with great interest, doing my best to understand that these people all existed before I arrived, and may well exist long after I'm gone. I slept last night reflecting; The human condition is rare. It's duration too short to waste doing something you hate. Why subject your soul to live in restriction? We're all one. Bucketlist item COMPLETE. It's been my childhood dream to visit the Seinfeld Restaurant aka @tomsrestaurantnyc I loved the show as a kid, but really dived into it during high school (some mates and I even had a Sein FB chat purely for quotes). In my Resources of Wisdom, Seinfeld is ranked as No.6 in the TV/Anime/Docos section, yeah that's right. Aside from the timeless comedy, I've derived so much wisdom from this show. The show represents the epitome of just doing you. It wasn't popular at all to begin with, not until the 3rd season, and in interviews of the cast they said "it didn't matter how big we got, we just came to work to do our little show." It's such a north star to believe in yourself and forget about the rest. Thank you to all involved in bringing Seinfeld to light, it's had an impact on my life I could never fully describe. #thatsgoldjerrygold #seinfeld 1. Give Love. 2. Ask for nothing in return. I'll meet you outside." This is how my client and I finished out a ripper of a session yesterday. After spending 90mins discussing all manners of deep social dynamics, particularly around Egoic attachment, I made sure we grounded ourselves with real world affect at the end. I told him that he had to go up to any stranger inside this cafe, and just give them some love, in the form of a well-wish of any kind. I then got up, turned around saw the nearest person closest to me (shy, nerdy looking girl on her laptop) and proceeded to give her that love, wishing her a great life and introducing myself. I felt a tap on my back and felt my client walk past on his way to take action. I didn't stay to watch, I trusted that he would follow through. I waited outside and he emerged 1% more developed, and then approached the two girls who took this photo for us. Give, because its rewards are limitless, both for the receiver and yourself. Sitting on the steps this morning, fulfilled after coaching an intense Boot camp in NYC. During the final debrief with my client last night I was humbled, humbled by his desire to change. In his words "I'm just excited to get back out there and get this shit done." I told him the only differentiator between success and failure is the work. I'm not special, I only changed myself through the work. And for all of my other clients that have realised an evolution, they simply did the work. Successful work involves self-awareness, correct principles and tactics to execute. But at a core level, none of those even come into play until you actually get out there and do the damn thing. Whatever path of evolution you've chosen, be it social dynamics or not, the work is your oxygen, your light forward. #thebowl "They want us for their wars, they send us to fight, but they don't want us to live here. they don't see us." Fernando the Puerto Rican, The Power of How Are You? P.4: 7/6/19. It was 9am and I came down onto the street from my NYC AirBnB, ready to meet Henry the repairs guy, however, waiting there was Fernando, dressed in white and ready to repair, just not for me. No matter, my genuine "How are you?" again had me deep in the story of this beautiful soul. We stood there totally immersed talking about the culture of NYC and how the cost of living is hard for so many. 20 minutes had gone by, and I felt the energy of the conversation shift from culture swapping, to emotional hurt. Without my direct prompt, but just through a casual comment I made about "Trump sending people back", Fernando's pain around "not being seen" started to seep. With his rich Puerto Rican accent he passionately discussed how painful it was to see his countrymen being used to fight American wars, but not being recognised as Americans when they came home. "They want us for their wars, they send us to fight, but they don't want us to live here. they don't see us." I didn't pretend to know anything about this, so I used my eyes to connect with him. I felt locked in his gaze, as he poured his heart into me. I said very little, and listened a whole lot. Next thing we knew a tall man pulled up in a sleek black sedan, it was Fernando's boss "Ben", I shook his hand, and politely asked Fernando's permission to take a photo. We may never meet again Mr. Fernando, and you'll likely never see this post, but please know, I see you. #thepowerofhowareyou The Power of How Are You? P.3: Adam: What's the most important 2 or 3 things when it comes to leadership and comms? Heather: Having lots of conversations and listening intensely. Adam: Why those 2 things? Heather: Because, you have to be able to understand people. Adam: .........*staring into the ceiling of the plane absorbing that wisdom.* - I had the absolute pleasure of sitting next to Leadership & Communication Coach Heather Forton (All In Mind Leadership) while flying from Adelaide to Melbourne (the night before heading to the U.S). We had never met before, but through my default genuine "How are you?" we dived in. Going back and forth on how each of us runs our own respective coaching businesses, I spent real time diving into her principles re: coaching corporate teams in leadership and comms. I learnt much from Heather, it's conversations like this that I live for, and they all start with The Power of How Are You? #thepowerofhowareyou After one of the most intense journeys of my life to date: - Fasting across 24hrs of international travel. - Meditation or conversation only throughout the entire flight time. I felt like I had my soul reconfigured stepping out into the JFK parking lot, and so grateful to be whisked away by the mystical driver Mr.Bilal from Blacklane. I mentioned in my story that I recorded a podcast on the plane, so I'll save the details for that, but just know I almost broke on the flight from L.A to J.F.K... It's a new morning in NYC and I'm off to get shit done before coaching tomorrow. Jaa! The traditional COME AT ME international flight photo. Although this time it's more like "COME BE WITH ME". The journey to NYC begins. People are super friendly. Got a spare sear in-between the veterinarian Nisha next to me, she's chill. Life is good! "Let go your earthly tether. Enter the void. Empty, and become wind." - Guru Laghima, Avatar Korra, Ep38 5min. These words, are something I've been integrating into my daily life and zen practice for a couple months now. I often find myself reciting the words as I enter my cold shower first thing every morning. I can't rush them in my mind, to rush through it is to succumb to the brutality of the cold. But as I slowly breathe through my nose only, I complete each section of this quote and the next thing I know, my body has completley adapted to the cold as if it were warm water, having lost all sense of who I am. When ever I find myself about to go over the cliff of overwhelm, I say these words, and feel the truth they point to, and it brings me back up. You could call it a mantra, you could call it a teacher. I try not to call it at all.